Finding my Power in Positivity by Anna Van Tol

As a single mother and an ambitious business woman, learning as I go, I often ask myself: “what wisdom and life lessons can I share with other women to help them on their journey?” Reflecting on the past and seeing all the transitions and challenges I have encountered has allowed me to recognize that I have the ability to handle the unexpected with strength and grace. Adversity has taught me that I am enough, just as I am and trying to be perfect is fruitless and foolish. But there is a difference between knowing this in my heart and putting it into practice in my daily life.


The most common barrier to sustaining belief in myself is self-doubt. In order to stay balanced and true to myself I have discovered some methods that help me stay on track.


  • I begin each day with gratitude – simply thanking God/Universe for another day.


  • I spend time imagining the life I want to live – allowing myself to feel the sensations of my vision.


  • I repeat thoughts and mantras that build me up. For examples, I turn to one of my favorite authors, Louis Hay, and her work, 101 Positive Meditations.


  • I work to surround myself with positive people who bring out the best in me and honor my true self.


After months of this daily practice, I found my mind altered. My thoughts were not directed toward what I DON’T want, they were directed toward what I DESIRE. I found the power of positive thinking to be absolutely astonishing.


My daughter turned six this year and my company, “It’s Only Love Active Wear,” turned two. Through my growth as a mother and a professional, I have learned so much about myself. I have discovered that the “I AM” of who Anna Van Tol is, is a woman of passion and expression. This woman longs to have the freedom to be who she is in all the places she goes.


There are moments I forget the “I AM,” and self-doubt creeps up to distract me. But I know how to relieve my confusion. Taking a moment to breath and remember that “I AM” always right where I need to be at any given moment. Each of us are alive we are faced with challenges not one of us are left out of this opportunity to grow deeper into knowing the “I AM” of who we are.


Anna Val Tol is the Founder of It’s Only Love Active Wear. To learn more about Anna or her company, you can find her here.